I distinctly remember the night I googled this question: “Is it possible for introverted moms to love motherhood?”
An hour earlier I had stood at the stove, flipping quesadillas and telling children to—for the love—please get out of my personal space.
“Guys, I can’t make dinner with you right under my feet,” I say, tripping over a little body while I reach for the cheese. “Go! Go play by the couch!”
A minute later, I notice that the reprieve only lasted about ten seconds. I’d had ten precious seconds to take a breath before my agitation jumped back up to the level it had been at when the kids were bouncing at my heels.
This time, the culprit was The Noise.
“Inside voices!” I remind them. “If you want to yell, you can go outside! This is a home.”
Naturally, my reminder falls on deaf ears, because three young children only play at one volume, which is why half an hour later, after brushing three sets of miniature teeth and shooing three heads to their beds, I find myself at the computer typing in a question I would never in a million years have thought to ask—before becoming a mom.
The Question Too Many Introverted Moms Are Asking Themselves
Can introverted moms love motherhood? Can we enjoy it? On a consistent basis? Or are we fated to trudge our way through it, loving our children fiercely while longing desperately for the quiet we’ve relied on all our lives. The quiet that’s all but gone now that we’re mothers.
I think We Can
I’m here to tell you this:
You’ve spent enough time thinking of your need for quiet as a weakness.
You’ve reeled at how other mothers seem to roll with the yelling, the jumping, the arguing, the clutter, and the nonstop chatter that come with raising children.
You’ve taken refuge in your closet, in the backyard, in your bathroom, in the pantry.
You’ve found yourself insisting that the kids take their antics outside of your immediate space. It’s just too much.
On good days, you manage it all by alternating between low engagement and high. On worse days, you send the kids to bed an hour early—because you just can’t handle it anymore—and you figure you’ll deal with their early wake-up because at least it means you won’t completely lose it tonight.
Motherhood is intense for introverts and highly sensitive people.
And in case you could benefit from definitions of those, let’s go with these:
If you find yourself retreating when you need to recharge, you may be an introvert.
If you’re easily overwhelmed by noise, smells, busyness, and your own thoughts, you may be a highly sensitive person.
With some shifts in your thinking and some tools to help you manage it all, I really believe it can be better, calmer—happier—than what you’re experiencing right now.
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