I recently noticed myself regularly saying a certain phrase.
“I just need to get through these last few weeks until my youngest is in kindergarten…”
“I just need to get through my husband’s latest trip to China…”
What tipped me off to it in the first place was when I noticed myself thinking this at the beginning of summer:
“I just need to get through summer with all the kids home…”
Get through? Why would I want to “get through” my favorite season? I love summer! The barbecues, the pool days, the beach trips and the family reunions.
But somehow, I wan’t seeing that. Instead I was looking ahead, imagining that after I’d “gotten through it,” I’d be set.
One day I realized—I don’t want “get through” anything. I want to enjoy each stage I’m in.
I wanted to love the last months with my (fiery / sweet) little lady at home. (I took her for mommy-daughter pedicures the very day I decided this. ❤️)
I wanted to savor the unhurried mornings and leisurely outings that summer affords us.
I want to laugh when my kids face off and prance around the room as if they’re professional wrestlers (wearing nothing but their underwear, by the way) readying for an intense match.
I want to smile to myself as I watch my 8- and 9-year-old boys work out together at the gym. Sure, my workout isn’t as effective with all the interruptions, but this time is short.
I want to shake out my shoulders, relax my jaw, and take the moments as they come—the hard ones and the good ones alike.
I want to take “hurry up” out of my vocabulary and practice the art of settling—settling into into each phase of life.
Why would I want to “get through” anything that has the potential to be beautiful if my perspective allows it?
What are you trying to get through right now?
Maybe it’s the sleepless days of new motherhood. Maybe it’s a rough patch with your toddler or that messy, transitional stage with a preteen. Maybe it’s a busy season at work or a season of nonstop sports with your kids.
I know it won’t help you escape the hard parts, but can you look at this stage differently and find beauty in it?
I don’t believe we’re meant to “get through” our lives. It might take a lifetime of practice, but I think we’re meant to sink into the moments and really live the days we’ve been given.
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