“That’s what I like about you,” a close friend said to me recently. “I like that I always know you’ll tell me if you don’t want to do something.”
We were four feet apart from each other, on the floor of our local gym. She was stretched across an exercise ball; I was attempting to hold a forearm plank.
“And when you do say yes,” she added, “I know you mean it.”
I set a knee down onto the ground, pausing my physical exercise so I could let my brain run through what she’d just said.
This was a benefit of saying no that I’d never thought of before. I knew what saying no did for me: it gives me time to focus on the things I really care about, it spares me the stress and anxiety of an over-full calendar, and it clears out space inside my head.
But this was something that receiving “no” did for her. For my friend.
It benefited both of us.
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