It’s likely that I was showing off for boys, which makes it 100 times more embarrassing.
It was elementary school recess, and my friends and I were seeing who could kick their leg highest, cheerleader style. I was sure I had this competition in the bag, so I gave it a good wind-up and kicked with everything I had.
Only problem was—I lost my footing with my supporting leg and landed flat on my side, knocking the wind out of me and doing major damage to my pride in the process. 😉
If I somehow found myself in this situation today (since I have so many leg-kicking competitions), I’m sure I’d be more able to laugh it off, to make fun of myself and move on.
That’s because I know myself now.
Sure, I know I’m a little accident-prone, but I also know my food and movie preferences, my Myers-Briggs personality type, how I perform under stress, and what makes me tick. I know that people re-make themselves on average every 10 years and that the person I am right now won’t be the same a decade from now. (It’s one of the beautiful and brutal facts of life.)
10-year-old me? She didn’t know any of that stuff. (Which is probably why she didn’t want to show her face at school for days after the leg-kicking incident!)
This reminds me of Gretchen Rubin’s #1 personal commandment in The Happiness Project—Be Gretchen.
Be Erica. Be Samantha. Be Jill. Be Ryan. Be Andrea. Be you.
(Leg kicks and all.)
Life is more comfortable when you know yourself.
Benefits of Knowing Your Personality
1. You know that feeling of relief you get when you take a personality test and read a page on the internet that describes you to a T? There’s relief in feeling understood.
2. Knowing your personality helps you manage day-to-day routines, keep a handle on your energy levels, and identify when you’re out of sorts and what you can do about it.
3. Self-awareness can help you release feelings of inadequacy and trade them in for more self-acceptance, which means you get to live with less guilt because you’ve given yourself permission to work within who you are. (This is a big deal!)
7 Personality Tests to Help You Live Your Truest Story
1. Myers-Briggs Test Indicator
This is the quintessential personality test. Check here for more background on the test and what the different letters mean, take the test here, and check here for a brief summary of all 16 personalities. The description of me (an INFJ) is eerily on point, and not surprisingly, my husband and I have no letters in common. (Makes for a dynamic marriage!)
2. The Five Love Languages
Learning how you best receive love, as well as how other people in your life receive love, is HUGE! This was eye opening during our newlywed years, when we were trying to figure out how to really connect. And as our children grow, it’s been fascinating to test out what languages they most respond to. Online quiz here.
3. The Big Five
Created by psychologist David Nettle, this assessment evaluates you based on five factors: openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. This one only takes about 10 minutes to take, but it’s surprisingly revealing. (FYI, I score high on all but extroversion.) 😉 Take a version of it here.
4. The Enneagram
I’ve heard some lofty stuff about this centuries-old study of nine types of people. They say it takes some sustained introspection to decide which of the nine you are, but once you do, a whole world opens up, teaching you where you shine, where you struggle, and how you likely interact with the other people (other numbers) in your life.
This podcast episode, Confront Your Junk, is a great place to start if you’re interested.
Book: The Enneagram Made Easy
5. Sanity Score
According to this NY Times blog post, Sanity Score is a “simple online quiz designed to assess aspects of your mental health, including your risk for depression, anxiety and other emotional disorders.” You do have to create an account, but it’s free.
I LOVE this concept for women who are wondering if they’re experiencing depression or anxiety but aren’t quite ready to book a psychiatrist. This is a great information-gathering first step (that you can take in your pajamas!). Learn more on the Sanity Score website.
6. The People Code
Also known as the Color Code, they say this model is motive-based, instead of behavior-based. Instead of exploring what you do, it explores why you do it. (We all know I love a good why!) The personalities are divided as follows: red (power wielders), blue (do-gooders), white (peacekeepers), and yellow (fun lovers). My husband and I did this when we were dating (twelve years ago!); maybe it’s time to pull it out again! Find a quiz here.
7. The Four Tendencies of Habit Formation
If you’ve followed me for long, you know how revolutionary Gretchen Rubin’s framework was for me last year. By learning how I best form new habits, I’ve been able to work WITH my personality to add some great health habits into my life. (I’m a “questioner,” by the way.) Learn more and take the quiz here!
Book: Better Than Before
“You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” Brené Brown
For the introverts
I think parenthood is intense for introverts, who rely on the quiet and space that are in short supply (that’s an understatement!) when you have kids.
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