As I write this, here in the U.S. we’re about four weeks into school closures and shelter-in-place ordinances for the COVID-19 pandemic.
I don’t know about you, but I’m finding myself experiencing wide swings of emotion on the daily. To be honest, hourly.
The Highs and Lows of COVID-19
One hour, I’m SO incredibly grateful to have my family safe at home with me.
The next hour, I’m feeling despair at, well… having my family (constantly) at home with me!
One hour, I’m feeling a tiny bit of euphoria inside my chest at the idea of never having to leave my house. #homebodyatheart
The next, I would give ANYTHING to drive my kid to a gymnastics class class or escape to the gym or a coffee shop for a few minutes.
One hour, I’m starting to think I can wrap my brain around this new, home-based life and my new responsibilities, like being a homeschool mom, finding ways to get my kids social connection while still keeping ourselves and others safe, and more.
I start to think maybe I can do this.
Then an hour later, my heart feels like it’s been torn wide open as I grieve for people who have lost family members, empathize with educators who have made herculean shifts on the drop of a dime, and worry about the state of the economy and the health of the men and women who work in essential services.
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We Can Hold Fear and Hope—At the Same Time
Those of us with sensitive hearts are bombarded right now with feelings of fear, stress, sadness, and worry—while at the same time catching glimmers of hope and happiness right where we are.
This duality is disconcerting, to say the least, but it’s reality for the time being.
One of the best things any of us can do is to carefully watch our thoughts. Our brains are going to be more tempted than ever to go down negative spirals, to dwell on all of the stress, fear, and heartache around us.
But let’s find positivity and hope in the midst of these dark times. Let’s give our brains different—better—thoughts instead.
14 Soothing Thoughts to Give Your Brain—Instead of Your Usual Stressful Ones
- I have everything I need in this moment.
- I have survived all of my hardest days.
- I am open to the lessons life is teaching me.
- I don’t judge or demean my own feelings. I let them in.
- I’m both a masterpiece and a work in progress.
- I have enough, I do enough, I AM enough. (via Shawn Fink)
- I am strong, calm, and stable.
- I’ve done hard things before. I can do it again.
- I love and accept myself just as I am.
- Everything will come together as it’s meant to.
- Mountains don’t rise without earthquakes.
- May I practice with what I’m given, rather than wish for something else.
- There’s no emotion I can’t survive.
- I’m doing the BEST I can with what I have, and it is enough.
I’d love to hear—Which of these thoughts speaks most to you right now?
Stress & anxiety at an all-time high?
I don’t need to tell you that this is an INTENSE time, a time that comes with a thousand different challenges. One of the challenges I’m hearing about most is the constant, exhausting hum of stress and anxiety—and I want to give you the tools to fight back!
I’ve poured my heart into a brand-new guide called, “From Stressed to Centered: 8 Concrete Steps to Fighting Stress & Anxiety During the COVID-19 Pandemic.”
Practicing thoughts like the fourteen above is a GREAT start, but friend, there is so much more you can do—and so much more peace to be found. (Yes, even now.) ❤️
Kim Mennillo
I resonated with “I’m both a masterpiece and a work in progress.” Crafting is my passion and I made it a goal to work on one craft a day during this time of isolation.Some days it’s a WIP (work in progress), other days the masterpiece is born! Often I like the work in progress better as the creation process unfolds. It’s like reading a really good book you don’t want to end. Sure, the final product is rewarding, but the work put into the piece is the fun part! Thank you, Erica, for giving us these 14 thoughts. I’m sending this to my daughter who has breast cancer and also suffers from anxiety and panic attacks. This is NOT an ideal time to get cancer and have to face surgery, therapy and recovery during COVID. She is a warrior, though, and will fight through it all. Much love to you! —Kim
Erica Layne
Wow, that one IS the perfect fit for you! And I’m so sorry about your daughter. You’re right—there is NEVER a good time for cancer, but this might just be the worst. I’ll keep her in my prayers!
Marie C.
Love the 14 thoughts and all of your inspirational posts. They’re really helpful. I also love the Life On Purpose calendar that I bought on Amazon. Hope you and your family are staying safe!
Erica Layne
Oh thank you, Marie! I’m SO happy to hear you’re enjoying the calendar, and I’m glad this post was helpful too! Crazy times! Sending well wishes right back to you and yours!!
Darlene
Everything will come together as it’s meant to.
Very comforting.
I also love the “enough” statements. I just made myself a t-shirt that says just that. “enough.” I thought people might not get it. But it seems to resonate.
Thanks for all you do.
God bless,
Darlene
KJ
I’ve done hard things before. I can do it again. Going through a lot of internal stress right now, feeling lonely, anxiety is high. Thank you for this post.
Simona Aravecchia
“I don’t judge or demean my own feelings. I let them in.”
We need an extra dose of self-compassion and empathy these days! I am practicing acceptance.
I also downloaded the 7 Concrete Steps to Fighting Stress & Anxiety During COVID-19. It was very helpful, thanks.
I am Italian, so I’d like to say goodbye to everyone with some words in Italian: abbiate cura di voi! (it means “take care of yourself!”)
Bye
Tammy Herbert
I appreciate this so much Erica!
My six word memoir is: Take What Comes and Be Grateful. Easier said than actually lived. So 12. “May I practice with what I’m given, rather than wish for something else”, it’s huge for me. One of my favorite quotes is by Mary Anne Radmacher: “Courage does not always soar, sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”. Words to live by.
Maria Koss
Love the one about “I am the masterpiece…” 🙂