When I first set out to begin writing, I had one goal in mind. That goal was to help people just like myself find more joy and enthusiasm in who they are and what their life consists of right now. We can’t always change our circumstances, but we can learn to better embrace where we’re at, and that’s what inspired my last post here on The Life on Purpose Movement: 21 Ways to Celebrate Who You Are Right Now.
I thought I had dished out something that would really resonate, and I think I accomplished that. But what I wasn’t expecting was to be inspired in return. Following that post, I received so many profound comments, and there seemed to be an obvious theme.
Most of those comments stemmed from one point on the list:
“14. Question your inner critic. (Push those negative voices aside! They speak a lot of untruth.)”
In response, we heard—
“I love all twenty-one, but number 14 is a must for everyone!”
“I do struggle with questioning my inner critic. What are some suggestions you have for setting internal negative voices aside?”
“The most powerful point of these for me is to question/talk back to my inner critic. (Out loud if necessary.) I speak truth over myself like I might a sister or close friend….This does not mean that my mean inner critic doesn’t still show up for coffee, but I am far quicker to put her in her place, lovingly but firmly. xo”
After those beautiful comments, I wanted to come up with a GREAT follow-up post. Perhaps, X Ways to Conquer Self-Doubt—or something to that effect. I had awhile to do some research, maybe try out a few techniques myself, and see how they worked in regards to my own self-doubt.
But I was overshooting. I was missing something much more important than that, and it was this:
You’re not alone in your self-doubt.
Can I be completely transparent today? Self-doubt is one of my biggest obstacles. Most of the time I bottle it up. I get dressed each morning, put on my eyeliner and mascara, and wear a smile that says: “I’m good!” But one consequence of that “pretending” is that it leads the negative voice in my head to say something even worse: “You’re the only one who feels this way.”
Feeling insecure is terrible, but feeling alone is even worse.
However, that post provided evidence of this:
We all struggle with self-doubt.
Can I say that? Yes! I’m going to. We all struggle with self-doubt. It may vary in degree, but I believe it is inside each of us.
I personally worry too much about what others think of me. I know I shouldn’t, but I do. I’m getting better with it, but that voice may always be mine. Yours might look a little different, but…
You’re not alone. Maybe that simple phrase is enough to keep us all going—and help dim that inner critic just enough.
Let’s find strength in each other.
Have you ever been to a friend’s house and found some comfort in the messes strung about, the imperfectly clean bathroom, or the sticky floor? I personally find a quiet respect for the person who doesn’t have it all together—because she is just like me.
We all have messes on the inside and out. Let’s stop pretending that we don’t.
So this is my message to you today:
If you worry that you’re not good enough, not talented enough, not beautiful enough, think about where those voices are coming from, and most importantly, realize that you’re not alone. Perhaps if we try that out, we’ll be better able to listen to the other voice. The voice that tells us we are good enough.
What are your thoughts on self-doubt? Are there certain areas in your life where you have more of it? Your parenting, your body image, your marriage, etc.?
Anything goes! I obviously enjoyed your comments from my last post, so keep them coming. 😉