I can’t really understand public declarations of love via social media.
Correction: I can understand them for one reason—if that is how your spouse perceives love. (Mine, on the other hand, would probably not even see it and might be slightly embarrassed if he did!)
So for those of us whose loved ones don’t welcome the online declaration, what do we gain from scrolling through a facebook feed that is filled for a day with people proclaiming why their spouse is the best and how their love grows stronger every day?
I’m torn, because 80 percent of me is just happy for my friends who have great love in their lives (myself included). But that other 20 percent? Well, that 20 percent is eight months pregnant and too exhausted to even let her husband soak her feet on Valentine’s night. (I was asleep by 9pm.) That 20 percent of me is being pulled apart by needy (but very cute) children, a husband about to change jobs, a rental house we’re in the process of selling, and of course, that baby I’m in the process of growing. That 20 percent of me has temporarily forgotten what romance is and honestly would rather not be reminded through my facebook feed.
So what’s your take on love declarations through social media? Love ’em or could live without ’em?
Here’s to being in a better place next year on Valentine’s Day so that at least 90 percent of me enjoys the social media love flood! (Pretty sure this post has something to do with hormones . . . 🙂
I always secretly (very secretly!) wish that Chad would post sweet, romantic things on my wall but then I remember that would never happen in a million years! Haha, that is just not him. And I would probably even be embarrassed if he did! In general we’re just not that kind of couple. Some people are just more private than others I guess? And I agree with you that some people give and receive love that way. All the power to them.
Sorry that you have a lot on your plate right now! Hopefully next year will be better with more energy, not being pregnant, older kids, (and a better, less time consuming job for Ryan??)
XOXO and happy Valentines!
I remember thinking that too, about Ryan, in our early days! 🙂 I’d almost forgotten!
Thanks for the well wishes! The dust should have settled at least somewhat by April! Have fun on your Idaho trip!
Let’s say you’re 30 and single… and happier than you’ve ever been in your life. EVEN STILL, the Valentine’s Day love proclamations on Facebook…. oofta. I love love, and I love loving others. But can’t you write someone a thoughtful card? Spares everyone weird feelings. (You’re not the only one!) XO.
Thanks, Nat! I was thinking of my single friends when I wrote this and how it’s funny that single OR married, the abundance of public expression can still just sit a little weird on Valentine’s. I’m all for the private card! 🙂 Thanks for commenting, dear!
This was the first year I noticed how annoying those updates can be. I, too, appreciate it as a great expression of love if that is how the receiver needs it, but for the most part it feels sort of juvenile. I don’t think I should tell everyone else how great my love for my husband is…he should already know.