Day after day ended the exact same way: me, exhausted and longing collapse on the couch… but instead walking around our apartment, gathering the random toys our kids had pulled out, played with for two seconds, and left in the middle of the floor.
For way too long I accepted this as part of my life, one of the responsibilities that came with raising small children.
But eventually, it dawned on me that I was in charge of my grown-up life (crazy, huh?), and if I didn’t want to finish all of my days collecting Tonka trucks and toy keyboards, I didn’t have to!
What We Did Next
So for the next few days, I watched my toddler boys more carefully, trying to really notice how they engaged with their toys.
I asked myself—What toys capture their interest for more than a few minutes? What toys are dragged around the house and discarded, and which ones do they actually play with?
Then one night while they slept, I hid any toys that didn’t meet my new criteria.
They woke up to an apartment containing a third of their toys and a mom biting her nails, wondering how soon they’d notice what was missing and how many tantrums she’d have to weather that day.
How It Turned Out
Crazy thing? They barely noticed.
If anything, they acted like the few toys I’d left out were new. To my surprise, it was a little bit like Christmas morning.
After that epiphany, I realized that the only toys I’d kept out were our building & imaginative sets. The toys that paid off for me as a mom were the ones that my kids could come back to over and over again and engage differently with every time.
The Toy Strategy that Unfolded
I started keeping our toy sets in the top of the boys’ closet, leaving one set down at a time. Whenever they were ready for a new set, I’d tell them we could switch it out as soon as they had their current set picked up. (If I was feeling extra crazy, I’d leave two sets out for them to combine. 😂 Like blocks + army guys.)
I went from cleaning up armfuls of toys every night to cleaning up barely any toys—ever.
I found that owning a handful of toy sets was really all we needed, and rotating them regularly helped keep their interest. As they grew and became ready for new challenges, at Christmas or birthdays we’d donate one set to make room for a new one.
We’ve since added a daughter to our family (and become even more minimal in other areas of our house!), and we’ve followed suit with her (small) toy collection.
We’ve cycled through a good number of toy sets over the years and have honed in on our very favorites. If you’re looking for a new idea for your little ones, I hope my toy strategy and these toy suggestions give you some inspiration!
Less really is more in nearly all areas of life… toys included. 🙌
{Related: 9 Hard Truths About Clutter You Need to Hear}
10 Toys Even Minimalist Parents Can Get Behind
Roughly in order of toys for younger kids to toys for older kids.
Marble Runs
My boys loved their marble run when they were younger. They’d build it a million different ways and get giddy when sending the marbles down. I did have to pack it up when their little sister became mobile (so she didn’t swallow any marbles), but years after I donated it, my boys still bemoaned the fact that I did.
😬 I’d call that a toy that made an impression! PS. This one has got more than 15,000 reviews on Amazon and is currently marked down!
Magnatiles
Our kids played with these every day for yearssss. It’s easy for kids to create new things using their imaginations or the instruction booklet it comes with, and then they always elaborate from there. Bonus: I swear the fact that they’re magnetic makes them super easy to clean up. The pieces practically jump together when you go to scoop them up. 🙂
Watch for sales of these on Amazon, and splurge for more pieces than you might initially plan to buy. You won’t regret it.
Wooden Blocks
These are a classic that I plan on buying for my grandchildren someday! The Melissa & Doug set is beautiful and holds up great to a ton of use. (5 stars, 4,700 reviews)
To keep their imaginations working different ways, I always kept a small bag of hot wheels, toy soldiers, and princess figurines that my kids could combine with the blocks. Over the years they’ve built army encampments, haunted houses, royal castles, pony stables, and much more out of these simple blocks.
Lite Brite
Did anybody else adore their Lite Brite as a kid? I bought one for my daughter partly out of nostalgia, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how much she plays with it! It’s a lifesaver when I need just 20 minutes of quiet time from my otherwise suuuuper chatty little lady. 😉 (This is the one we have, but I can see my daughter really loving this (well reviewed) My Little Pony version.)
Snap Circuits
I like that this set is small and doesn’t take over their bedrooms (I’m looking at you, Legos!), and I love what it teaches them and how it feeds their curiosity. I swear my kids know more about electricity than I do at this point! Start with a basic set (30-piece, 60-piece), and then you can always add a supplemental kit for a future holiday! (The light kit is fun!)
K’NEX
Goodness, you can build SO MANY THINGS with K’NEX. A few Christmases we got one of the basic sets, and if my kids weren’t now teenagers (what?!), I’d be putting in a good word with Santa about adding to our collection with this roller coaster set. 😉
Chess / Checkers
Chess is a genius way to get kids using their brains while also having fun. I especially love this set, because it has both checkers (which is easier to learn) and chess, and it’s magnetic—meaning the pieces are less likely to get scattered, stepped on, or lost. 🙂
The Lego Ideas Book
Like most parents, I had a love / hate relationship with Legos. Leaning more toward love, though, because of how well they occupied my boys! I didn’t officially put Legos on this list because (a) they’re kind of a given, and (b) some minimalists might die at how thoroughly Legos can take over a space. (They’re so little they just creep everywhere!) Regardless, I still think they’re worth it, and one thing that’s helped us get more bang for our buck is The Lego Ideas Book. It’s a fun way to get kids to stretch their creativity expand their Lego skills!
Oh and for my fellow neat freaks, try to train your kiddos to keep their Legos contained on a Lego mat (like this one)!
Educational Subscription Boxes
You may have heard of Kiwi Crates or Little Passports… Subscription services that send monthly boxes with themed activities for kids. Whatever your passion is, you can find a subscription service that will help you share it with your kids. I love the idea of these because parents and kids can connect through them, and you can explore totally new topics or skill sets. For ideas and sources, check out my friend Kerry’s post, 20 of the Best Education Subscription Boxes for Kids. (This would be an amazing gift from the grandparents!)
The Mini Kick Scooter
Heaven knows I love outdoor equipment because it doesn’t clutter up my house! Plus, you know, exercise. 😉
In particular, my minimalist self loves these scooters because they’re three-wheeled, meaning they always stand upright. So instead of having a tangled heap of scooters hanging out on my porch, we had three scooters standing neatly upright and in a row. (It’s the little joys in life, right?)
What kids love about them is how they glide. AKA, like a dream. They can take a bit for little ones to master, because you have to lean your body to steer, instead of physically turning the handlebars like you do on a traditional scooter. But this also makes them super fun, and the kids in our neighborhood were always ditching their razors and grabbing my kids’ scooters for a turn.
Micro Kickboard is the name brand, but other companies (like Rimable, Voyage Sports, Vokul, and Globber) make them at slightly lower price points. They also come in several different sizes, so watch the weight guidelines to get a feel for that.
In case it’s helpful, we owned this one (for kids in the 3-6 age range).
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Best wishes to all the parents trying to strike that tricky balance between enough toys to keep your kids curious and engaged but not so many that collecting them and cleaning them up takes over your life! 😉
I’d love to hear—How’s the toy situation at your house?
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Missy
Hi Erica,
I don’t have littles in the house anymore, but I keep a toy closet for the grandkids. I have done exactly what you are talking about – the Magnatiles and the Legos are perennial favorites, along with classic board games, art and craft supplies, and a few remote control cars. Grandma’s house is a no-device zone.
One of my favorite memories from way back when I was in grade school in the 1960’s… I had a box full of small action figures, trinkets won at school fun fairs, leftover pieces from discarded games, a few little cars and trucks, a ball of string (necessary for my figures to scale the heights of the dining room chair), marbles, scraps of cloth, and other interesting odds and ends. I spent hours and hours with that box of stuff, creating imaginary worlds and adventures. I don’t remember many of the other toys I had over the years, but I do remember lovingly curating and playing with my box of treasures.
I also remember that my parents rotated toys – We knew there was stuff on the top shelf of the closet that we couldn’t reach, and when they were brought down and swapped out it was like a bonus Christmas morning! That usually happened when my parents had friends come to visit for an adult evening of card games and conversation. It kept us out of their hair and busy with our “new” stuff so they could have their grown-up time.
Erica Layne
I love all of these, Missy. The closet with toy sets for the grandkids, the memories of what you played with as a child, the trick your parents used to keep toys interesting. Thank you for sharing!
Naomi
Your suggestions are mostly what I’ve come to realize after a few kids. I had a daycare at home and once I closed it, I got rid of a lot of toys without regret. Here wood blocks/train tracks, Legos, nerfs, cars and kitchen toys are what they use most and my favorite. My kids that still play with toys are between the age of 1-13 !
April U
We have had Picasso Tiles (similar to Magnatiles, from Amazon.com) for over a year now and they are definitely a favorite. Combine them with dinosaur and/or sea creature figures and my 5 year old boy (and sometimes 8 year old girl) is happy for hours. Now that the Playmobil Nativity set is also out for them to play with the stories and situations are getting even more imaginative! Need to check out those scooters as my 5 year old has no interest in riding a bike.
Erica Layne
Love these, April! Thanks for sharing! And I hope the scooter is a good in-between step for him! 😉
Lisa Hamel
I love these suggestions–they’re perfect for my son who LOVES to build.
FYI on the KNEX roller coaster set–it takes forever to build (even for an adult) it takes up a lot of space, and your children may never let you take it down. We LOVE KNEX, but that particular kit drove me a bit crazy for all of those reasons.
Erica Layne
This is SO good to know, Lisa! I might downgrade to one of the smaller roller coaster sets then… Sounds like those would be a bit more manageable! (And heaven knows we don’t have a ton of floor space in their room!)
Vijay Bhabhor
Hi Erica,
I like to wooden blocks, Where I can shop this? I did not seen any wooden blocks in India. Let me know the best place where I can purchase, Online shopping will be better for me.
Erica Layne
I link to a Melissa & Doug set in the article, Vijay! Sold on Amazon. Good luck!
Lori
Thank you for the ideas! I’ve been thinking of getting my daughter a scooter for awhile, so it’s nice to have a recommendation of one to try.
Erica Layne
This design is really just the best. Like I said, it may take your daughter a bit to get the hang of it, but once she does, she’ll be gliding all over the neighborhood! 😉 Great to hear from you, Lori! Hope you and the fam are well!
Katie Emanuel
Girl, this post made my day! You just made Christmas shopping so much easier! Each of these gifts offer opportunities for open-ended play (which I love!) Putting this list together for others allows us to spend less time on shopping and more time with those we love this holiday season. Thank you!
Betsy
I was just reflecting on our favorite toys and ended up writing a post about our favorite wooden blocks sets.
http://www.eco-novice.com/2017/11/our-favorite-wooden-blocks-open-ended.html?m=1
I am a firm believer in rotating toys but don’t always do it…. And I need to work on my minimalism.
Hope you and your family have a great holiday season! We miss you guys.
Linda Sand
If you buy your daughter the Friends line of Lego blocks they fit right in with regular blocks to expand everyone’s horizons while offering lots of play value once assembled even if only built as directed.
Erica Layne
Thanks for the recommendation, Linda!
Tori @ everyday wholesome
Totally love this article and I’m looking up every item on this list! My MIL needs a Christmas list and I dread this every year! Thank you for helping!
Erica Layne
I’m so glad you can benefit from it! Good luck this year, Tori!
Erin S.
I love this idea. I got frustrated one night and put away a whole shelf of toys for my 3 kids. When I heard complaints, I told them I would get back out any toys they could name. One child named one of her brother’s toys. Nothing came back out, and we’ve had a lot less ever since. Now, if you have craft room strategies, I’d love to hear them!
hannah lacy
This is a great post! My oldest is 4 and my youngest is one so go going forward we try to buy toys for the oldest that will last for the youngest to play with. Some toys we’ve had since my firstborn was one- wooden blocks! like you said our favorite toy you can build sort knock down they are basically indestructible don’t require batteries and don’t break like plastic. Also wooden train sets for the same reason – if a toy lasts for 4 years and 2 kids play with it I call that a keeper! we recently stumbled across magna tiles my oldest got them for christmas and i definetly want to add more. i didn’t see this on the list (maybe it doesnt count as minimalist?) but for us art supplies! melissa and doug sells reasuable sticker pads that come with different scenes the stickers only stick on the paper that come with it and you can move them around. Also our chalkboards from chalk full of design on instagram. (I know ppl can be skeptical that things you find on instagram are only pretty but these are also practical ) kids can practice letter, numbers, shapes, doodles, cursive etc and just erase again and again.
Erica Layne
Absolutely to the art supplies! And you can count anything you’d like as minimalist—to me, all is means is living the way *you* want to. 🙂 🙂
Jenny
So we have subscriptions to both Kiwi and Little Passports (thanks to extended family). What is driving me crazy right now is that 1) my son wants to keep EVERYTHING he makes from the Kiwi crate. We are overloading on already-made projects. What can I do to help him let go of stuff after it has been built?