Most blogs are a reflection of the best of our lives, and understandably so. But I want this space to be real too, so for no other reason than that, today I’m sharing four things that are bugging me right now!
- My entire closet. It’s bugging me because no more than three shirts fit. And I have a hard time being patient with my body after having a baby.
- Certain people—namely my little charges—invading my space bubble nonstop. I get stuck behind them, moving at a snail’s pace, as I heft the infant carrier out to the van. I stumble over them while I’m trying to make dinner and they’re trying to show me their latest & greatest trick. I can’t even nurse without someone sitting so close to me that I barely have enough elbow room to reach the baby. (Although that’s actually kind of cute.) I love being close and cozy with my children when they’re calm, but three-and four-year-old boys are not often calm! Also, motherhood was not designed for people with space bubbles!
- The fact that our boys are ready for outings but our baby is not. The boys are constantly asking me—their eyes shining with hope—if we’re going to Hop ‘N Play or swimming lessons or the park with the huge slide. All the places we used to go often, before Quinn came along. It won’t be too much longer before outings are more doable, but I feel bad continually disappointing the boys by answering “no, not today.”
- My own snappiness! I was positive this would disappear after pregnancy, but it turns out I was wrong! (Maybe snappiness is just a habit now??) I tend to get agitated with the boys (1) in the evenings and (2) anytime Quinn is wailing. I’m doing my best to avoid those situations and to apologize when I need to . . . I can’t wait to feel totally like myself again. (Wonder when that will be!)
As a disclaimer, I should mention that we’re actually doing very well! Our adjustment to three kids is going better than I expected; I’ll be sharing more about that later this week. Most importantly, I am blissfully infatuated with my darling little Quinn!
But that said, it still felt good to vent! So what’s bugging YOU lately? You know you want to get it off your chest! Or can you relate to any of my four?
Oh my goodness, I can relate to everything you just said! I have a space bubble too and it is just impossible with two little boys plus a nursing baby! I feel you, sister! I am also MUCH more snappy than I ever was before after my third baby. Perhaps our patience has already been zapped by the two three and four year old boys, it’s like my fuse is just much shorter than it ever was before!
Haha, you said it so well! Maybe our patience really has been zapped by the older kids. 🙂 I sure hope we can figure out how to get it back, though. Otherwise, our third children are in for it! Too bad we can’t get together IRL and let our boys invade each other’s space bubbles and possibly leave us alone to chat for five minutes! 🙂
yup, same here. but i just have the two! space is deffinately an issue right now. they are really getting sick of being in the house most of the day and even more sick of being with me 24/7! i can tell because at some point in the day they just get tired of listening to me and trying to behave and get along, they need their space as much as we do!
LOL. “Motherhood was not designed for people with space bubbles. ” Amen! Or was it designed to make us pop the space bubbles? 😉 I have noticed that my patience with the boys also wears thin when baby is crying. I hate it when she cries and I can’t really do anything about it. It really tears me up inside and makes me cranky. 🙁 And that’s usually in the evenings when trying to get dinner on or get everyone bathed and ready for bed, and of course no one is listening to invisible mom.
Also, boys are so noisy! 🙂
I’m honestly relieved to hear that someone else loses it when the baby cries. It kills me! And then I get so impatient with the boy whose bottom I’m trying to wipe or whatever it is. 🙂
Hope to see you at the end of June!!
Thanks for your candor Erica. You know what’s bugging me right now? The pile of mail in the kitchen.
Lisa, mail is my nemesis! I think my pile is currently IN the mailbox, because I dislike most mail so much that I procrastinate checking it. Unless, of course, my mom sends something. Then I like mail. 🙂 Good luck with your pile!
I can relate. What about the 18 month old who walks wonderfully but stands in front of you and whines until you carry him…or else its a tantrum on the floor. The same kid threw a major fit this afternoon so he got to spend a good 20 mins crying to himself in his room.
Thanks for the real post!
Liz! Your recent real post is what inspired mine, so thank you! And oh man, the kid who wants carried. Now that’s a fun stage! Especially for a pregnant mommy. Sorry, girl! It’ll pass! 🙂
Personally, I think it all boils down to lack of appreciation! Just hang it there…you’re doing great. As a school teacher, it is always nice when a parent is apprecitive. It’s a small thing but means a lot! So, I’d like to say that I appreciate YOU, Erica. You boost my spirits!
I love that you are so real on your blog! Snappiness is such an issue for me while pregnant/postpartum. The hardest part is not getting too caught up in the “mommy guilt.” I usually yell at my kids then go cry 🙂 Better to just say sorry and move on!
Haha! Totally totally understand how you feel!
LOVE real posts like this. I relate to all 4, though finally the closet one is improving since I’m at almost 6 months and my nursing chest size is finally shrinking. It significantly helped me to go through clothes and make a “when I’m thinner” or “I never really loved this anyway” pile for throwing out or storing; then at least your closet is more happy and clean to look at – who knows, you just might have more that fits than you think (if you can find it!)
Children in my way is the worst thing ever. I have to consciously work at not pushing them or plowing right by and shoving them aside, since I’ve seen Adrie start to be more physical than she should and know she probably thinks its ok since I do it. But GAH I still hate it 🙂