The Marriage Diaries: Find Someone Whose Heart You Can Love

When I asked Casey Leigh if she’d like to write for the Marriage Diaries, she shared some beautiful thoughts in response on her blog. A few lines of hers stood out to me, but what struck me the most was this:

“Insecurity is a real stinker. When someone is stressed at work or hurting because of something completely unrelated to you….if you are insecure, you suddenly make it about you. It is because you aren’t good enough when in reality it has nothing to do with you.”

They say experience is the best teacher, but I wish I could have internalized this ten years ago—minus the experience! In a marriage, when your feelings are so tied up in someone else, it is easy to make things personal even when they weren’t intended to be. Can you relate?

casey leigh2To read more of Casey’s reflections, visit her here. (Also, not many people document their children as tenderly as she does through her photography, so check her out!)

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  • Emily C. Gardner
    April 23, 2014 at 10:52 am

    Oh dear, I wish I didn’t find myself so wrapped up in those thoughts. Tim and I have been married just under two years and this is a constant struggle for me. I take almost everything personally (maybe the product of being a sensitive introvert?) and much of that stems from my own insecurities.

    • Erica Layne
      April 23, 2014 at 8:23 pm

      Why am I not surprised that you are a sensitive introvert, too?? Our personalities come with a lot of up sides, but I don’t think brushing things off is one of them! I loved this reminder, though, that being secure in yourself makes a big difference. For me, after becoming a wife and mom, I kind of had to refigure myself. But I think I’ve taken things less and less personally now that I know myself better in these new roles. Hope you are finding the same.

  • Ashley Ponder Richards
    April 23, 2014 at 1:00 pm

    My husband is constantly staying “you take everything so personal”. To me, it feels very personal but maybe it isn’t as personal as I think. I get my feelings hurt very easily because one of my worst feelings is the feeling of failure or “not quite good enough”.

    • Erica Layne
      April 23, 2014 at 8:30 pm

      First thing you gotta do is lower the failure bar—and then lower it again! But who am I kidding, I’m still figuring this stuff out too. Hugs!

  • Haili
    April 23, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    I love Casey. I am one who takes things ever so personally. Too personally sometimes. My feelings can get hurt pretty easily, but I am learning to get past that. Casey was a great choice to have a part of this series.

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